As a mother of a 19-year-old college student, who is over 1,200 miles away, I am learning to let go of control. Only God truly is in control. Control may be out of my grasp, but I can ease the transition for my college student and for myself.
One Bible verse that I am holding near to my heart is Proverbs 16:9: “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.” We can make all the plans, but God is the only one in control.
Earlier I wrote the article 29 Ways to Soar with Your Mental Health at College. This article shares five simple ideas that you as a parent can ease the transition for your college student. Our kids are starting more independent lives. We are learning how to support them at the same time.
1. Ask your college student how you can best support them.
Ask your college student, “How can I best support you while you are away?” This seems so simple, but might feel awkward!
As moms, we often know our child’s wants and needs when they are little. But as young adults, they may need to guide us. We might be surprised how they answer this.
2. Consider Sending A Goodie Package
Consider sending a Goodie box. Buy and pack all of your college student’s favorite items, that won’t melt. Gum, mints, protein bars, their favorite candies, jerky, cookies, gift cards, or money are all possibilities for a fun gift box.
A little surprise can ease homesickness and remind your student that someone cares for them, even from afar.
3. Use SnapChat to Communicate
Do you use SnapChat? Personally, I am not a huge fan of SnapChat. However, many college students use SnapChat as their main way to communicate.
They use it for texts and short videos. A snap or text can help remind your child that you are thinking of them.
I tend to get a quicker response if I send a Snap, but I prefer texting, when possible. A picture or video of their pet at home can also bring a smile to their face.
4. Encourage Your College Student With a Bible Verse
Share a Bible Verse or daily devotion. Once or twice a week try sending an uplifting Bible verse or daily devotion that can help encourage your student.
The Bible App has multiple options for college students that are typically short and easy to understand. It has the full bible in numerous translations, reading plans, and devotionals.
5. Pray About Your Student’s Transition from High School to College
Our most powerful weapon for our children is Prayer! I feel like it’s so easy to forget that we can talk to God anytime day or night. God is able to take our anxieties and burdens. We can share all of our concerns about our college student’s transition to college.
As mentioned above, God controls every detail of their life. We can go to Him for comfort and peace. We can also pray for protection over our child’s heart, soul, and mind.
If you do not already read a daily devotional, then I highly recommend it. A devotional doesn’t have to be difficult. You can just read a passage of scripture, meditate on it, and pray. Here’s a 7 day devotional for the parents of college students that I like.
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